Thriving Children

I want to start off by saying, "I am a good mama". I am NOT perfect and I have a lot of learning to do, but I really enjoy helping mama be proud of the job they are doing or help them get to that point of pride. Mama, grandmom, dad, grandpop, give yourself a pat on the back if you are reading this email. Reading this email means you 'give a damn' about yourself and loved ones. Right on!

I've been so inspired this week writing and presenting my workshop on Thriving Children and watching the kiddos at Deeply Rooted Learning Center's camp work on STEM projects. I have always taught my clients that we need to be the example. We need to model what we want to be seeing our kiddos doing. We also need to give our kiddos the opportunities to learn. They need to fail and fail again so they learn from their mistakes. If we do everything for them, they will never learn. We also have to inspire them to want to learn, by being an active learner yourself. Always try harder and strive to be the Best Version of Yourself.

This week I watched 4 and 5 year olds hang with the 7 year olds in building a boat to help the Billy Goat Gruff under the bridge instead of over the bridge. We gave them materials and told them to be creative and do their best to make it float. Some failed and started over, but in the end they all were successful. They were given the opportunities and they thrived!

I had a conversation with a mom the other day that was struggling with her 12 and 20 year old that they had no real life skills. She continued to go on that she does everything for them, they don't know how to do anything. She questioned about my instagram posts on how my 4 year old cooks her own eggs and they all love learning, etc. My responds was, "I would rather see my 2 year old struggle with putting his shirt on, than struggle to pay his bills at 25." I am determined to set my kiddos up for life. I treat them as if I am raising adults, not kids. Yes, we have ALOT of fun, but my mato has always been 'We have to do what we have to do, before we can do what we want to do.' That is the reality of life!

I may fall short of these at times, but I'm human. No matter what age your kiddos are it's not too late to start. Here are some helpful tips I gave out during the workshop that I am excited to share with you.

Live Simple:
1. Clean out the toy box. Children do not need nearly as much as we think. Too many toys can be overwhelming and distracting. They also begin to think everything is replaceable and nothing is valuable. #entitlement
2. Share space. Sharing rooms teach children to negotiate, compromise and work out conflicts. Teach them to work as a team.
3. Chores. Let your children help out around the house. They naturally want to help and be apart of the team. It may be messy to let them help at times, but over time they will be very successful and really helpful. Give them the opportunities to try.
4. Clean eating. A hungry child will eat! Stop with all the snacks and two dinners. If the "unhealthy" food isn't in the house, they can't eat it. (Period) stop buying it and giving them options. They will eat what there is to eat.

Live Natural
1. Use nature to heal. Essential oils, food, nature, and rest are all really great ways to heal our bodies instead of running to the doctor at the first sniffle.
2. Get out in nature. Nature Club starts up again next month! Fresh air will keep us healthier - weight loss, vitamin D, happier, concentration will improve and so much more.

Live Life to it's Fullest
1. We really only get our kiddos for 18 years, make though years count.
2. Set boundaries for play and serious work.
3. Childhood demands are on the rise! School workloads are intense, Homeschooling is an option.

These tips will surely help your kiddos out, but if you are not modeling it for them, they are going to have a hard time doing it on their own. You got this! Start making changes today. If you want more information or clarification on anything please reach out. I love hearing from you!.

Stephanie Wiscott